Being a safe person
Merriam Dictionary Definition of Safe:
: not able or likely to be hurt or harmed in any way
: not in danger
: not involving or likely to involve danger, harm, or loss
What does it mean to be a safe person?
It's fair to say that we have all been disappointed by someone at some point in our lives.
Many times we fail to acknowledge that we have disappointed others,
because it's easier to see their mistakes and the hurt they caused us.
We all want people in our lives that we can be real with, people we can trust
with our hearts and our struggles and risk opening up to.
As we grow on our journey on being self-aware,
one thing we need to ask ourselves is are we a safe person?
To be a safe person we need to acknowledge the hurt we have caused others.
Understanding that even if it wasn't intentional or if it was intentional,
it caused us not to be a safe person.
In order to maintain our relationships with others,
it's important to learn what it means to be safe.
So that others can also be safe people with us.
How do we start being a safe person?
This starts with asking yourself what a safe person is to you and
work on it.
Do people trust YOU?
Do they know that being with YOU they will not have to question if YOU will harm them?
Safe people are trustworthy.
Safe people empathize with pain.
Safe people confront others gently and with compassion .
Safe people view relationships as equal.
Safe people are understanding.
Safe people give grace instead of judgement with others imperfections.
Safe people are not demanding.
Safe people are not stagnant in their own growth.
Safe people do not cause harm towards others.
Safe people speak well of others.
Safe people have a good reputation with others.
Safe people encourage others. They don't shame others. They don’t criticize others.
Safe people are transparent and authentic.
Safe people are forgiving. They extend to others the forgiveness they have received from God and from those they have hurt.
Safe people seek forgiveness when they blow it. Safe people confess their specific faults, acknowledge the effects of their actions on others, and ask for forgiveness.